Looking past the pain

Sometimes we just have to continue forward in our lives. We need to fight to survive and recognize that we are still living. There are many things that make us hallow inside. Different events will break the heart and rip the soul right out of us. At least that is what we want to believe.

Everyone has friends and family to lean on for support during these hard times. What happens when you fall back and no one is there though? How do you learn to trust again? How do you figure to pick yourself up and become whole again?

We have to look past the pain to see things brighter and better. We have to look past the pain to see a real meaning and reason(s). Many of us though are very selfish people. Let's face it, we are in a time of "me" and not others. Even when donating to charity we want to ensure we are recognized for our "good deeds".

There are several organizations out there who were created by people looking past their pain. I look at them with respect. I don't want to mention any of them by name, because I fear that my views could change when confronted with why didn't you list mine.

However, you don't have to create an organization everytime you lose someone close to you in life. You could donate to another one who's cause is close to yours.

We always believe that no one knows what we are experiencing whenever we are faced with personal pain. How many of you stop to think about someone else who lost the love of their life; lost a kid/family member; just got fired with a few years before retirement; or many other tragic life curve balls. We tend to forget that we are here to learn and grow. If we didn't suffer, how much growth would we really have? Let's face it, suffering causing growth, but looking past the pain and moving forward creates the largest amounts of growth.

It is tragic when we are faced to look our lives and ask why. It is easy to wallow in self pity and want to stay in a state of desperation. What would our world be like though if everyone was to remain in this state? Everyone knows someone who has chosen to live in this state. Most of us try to help them, with no success. Next we become hardened by them, and lastly we decide for our best interest we need to move forward without them in our life.

Let's face it, all of us have had to make this happen at some point. My question to you is this though. How do you look past the pain?